I’m Bombchell and I run my personal blog where I talk about everything from partying, friends, funny videos, makeup, a bunch of pictures, & mostly about life in Atlanta. Anyways I’ll be your guest blogger today =) pretty excited.
My post for today is under relationships. And directed towards the women about the men, though I think everyone will enjoy it regardless of gender (& I sincerely hope no one feels attacked). So let’s jump in, to the things guys always say or do, and how we can learn from it.
NO 1. I was busy. That statement comes in so many different forms. Be it, “sorry I forgot” (insert date, or whatever he promised he’ll attend to) “I was so… busy at work”!! More like he too busy being rude and couldn’t call to cancel on time. So sure we love them so we forgive them.
But ladies do you notice, “I was busy” never comes with anymore explanations, and we’re too afraid to ask, what exactly he was doing because we’ll be seen as controlling, or clingy or whatever, so we bury the feeling, and put up a front, then pour out the problems to our girlfriends. Bad communication! However if it’s “us” they ask us specific questions, “so where were you?”, “who did you go out with” or that trick question “so, what did you do this weekend” where of course we give every single detail, and they give us their one lines.
2. Be yourself & believe you are worthy of love: Stop feeling guilty!!! Screw all those movies, tv shows, cosmo quizzes and our girl friends. If you have a problem tell him. I find that so many women pretend to be who they’re not, because they are afraid that if they are themselves, he wouldn’t want them. Personally I’d rather be single & happy than pretending to be someone else like a prisoner, be yourself, if he loves you great, if not there’s someone else.
It’s almost as if guys rule the world, and they came up with this great plan centuries ago to make us feel they are kings and we’re here to serve them, and fight for them, and try every trick in the book to win their love & attention. But I doubt they did that, so ladies behave yourselves.
3. Why do we give the guys all the power?? “Does he like me”, “Am I good enough,” “Am I his type,” “Am I too fat.” We give away all the power and worth to the guys that we forget to check & ask ourselves “Is he good enough for me?” “Do I actually like him.” “Do I see a future with him?” “Do I even think he’s hot” We’re too busy trying to win their affection, that we forget what it is we actually want, because we’re occupied with what they want.
We should all be ourselves, right now a lot of us are still young, and time’s on our side. Don’t waste it being someone else, don’t settle for just ok. Being single isn’t a curse, and you might be rejected a lot, but everyone beautiful or not gets rejected, but don’t forget it only right person to make it all worth it.
Hope you enjoyed this =) and I look forward to hearing from you. Perhaps the next post on here, or my blog site might be for the guys, and the stuff ladies do that’s just plain wrong. Oh yeah random: I’m a 100% Igbo & proud of it.
Kisses Bombchell 🙂
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