This one degree of separation amongst NIGERIANS is becoming insane. This happens 9 times out of ten, I meet a fine looking naija man, with serious prospects – lets call him Chinedu. This is how the discussion goes most times:
Meyonce: Bola mehnnn I met this Fine boy oh last night at Queens in ATLANTA
Bola: AH AH..for real??? What’s his name
Bola: What Chinedu?? Chinedu Nzelu??
Meyonce: I guess..dont know his last name yet. He is about 6 ft 1
Bola: Yes, Light skin, has dreadlock…
Meyonce: Wow..yes…you know him???
Bola: Hell yeah..ah ah …isn’t he the same one that used to date Ceclia
Meyonce: Ceclia?? Your sisters bestfriend??
This is just one of many scenarios, and the boy does not even live in Atlanta .
Now I would have to be faced with the decision of “do I want to talk to him or not?” Not that Cecelia and I are best friends or anything, but we speak when we see each other, we are friends on facebook, and we have the same circle of friends. If I talk to him, this is how the usual girl problem start, they begin to call you man snatcher, asewo babe, gold digger, trifling ass and the list goes on. But if don’t talk to him because of the so called GIRL CODE, then I’d feel like I missed out on true love; all of a sudden the BOBO becomes off limits.
It seems like I can’t just meet a man in peace. Even if I meet Bankole in Alaska, Bankole will have a Cousin that lives in Houston who went to secondary school with my EX-BOYFRIEND that lives in Alabama . In fact the one degree of separation is what makes me scared of dating a naija man. Sometimes I just fantasize about dating a Tyrone or Keshawn because at least you know 9 times out of 10 he wont know your story with Oghene. Don’t get me wrong I have not done anything in the past to be ashamed of, but we know that with our people if they hear one thing about you (which may not even be true) they begin CNN with added extra flavor of Maggi and pepper to make the story sweet.
So with being said, what do you think about dating in the close-knit naija community that we are associated with? Thoughts? Comments?