The Jara presenter, BBA celebrity, model and Nollywood actor Uti Nwachukwu took his time to write an exciting and educative piece about how Nigerians perceive marriage, pressurize people into it, take it for granted, and joke with God on the alter of making vows that they wouldn’t keep after being married.
Enjoy Uti’s marriage sermon below.
Why you never marry Na?
Hmmmm how old is she? Why isn’t she married??
This one he is still single. Maybe he traded his marriage for wealth via JuJu
They say She was very promiscuous in her young days o! And see her she is married!! Where is my own LORRRRRD!!!! WHY ME??!!!
WAKE UP NIGERIANS!
I think Nigerians are the hardest to convince that times have changed!
Which is why we are finding it hard to fully develop as a country? #FACT!
The amount of importance and relevance attached to marriage in this side of the world is the main reason for DEPRESSION, FAILURE, UNFULFILLED LIVES, PRETENSE AND UNREPORTED SUICIDE! And Iâ€™m not talking about the single folks here!
Donâ€™t get me wrong I am not anti-marriage! I am very Pro Marriage â€“ for the right reasons!
Itâ€™s crazy shocking and alarming that till now people still succumb to pressure and just marry the next person they date!
In my opinion it is better to die single than to marry and be stuck with the wrong person! Cos that itself is early death!
First of all parents need to chill!
You have lived your lives, produced and raised good childrenâ€¦ If you did a good job at it, you should trust your kids enough to make the right adult decisions at the right time! Stop the pressure!! Some of you have forced your kids into abusive relationships just so that you can save face and Brag that ahh all my children are married ooo! So continue bragging when you have to go and fetch their bodies from a Hospital or even worse a mortuary!! Yep itâ€™s been happening in this country. Husbands beating their wives to deathâ€¦wives stabbing or shooting their husbands.
Thank God for the kind of parents and Family I have o.
Then society needs to shut the hell up!
MIND YOUR DARN BUSINESS AND FOCUS ON YOUR OWN LIVES!
The truth is people that are happily married and busy raising a family have absolutely no time to bother about who is single, why they are single, who is married and staying married.
Most embarrassingly a married person getting involved in gossip about singles. Kai!!! Signs of a failing/unhappy marriage include- serious levels of Aproko! Hahaha
On a more serious note my opinion is this expecting everyone to get and stay married is like expecting everyone to be Rich and famous! IT WONT HAPPEN!
The earlier we accept the better for us!
Most people do not listen to their spirits and or seek God deeply. They just fling themselves into unions just so they can be MARRIED.
Times have changed!
People are not staying married! Men are getting more and more irresponsible, women are getting more successful and intolerant of menâ€™s childish behaviors and oh they are also bold enough to explore extra-marital affairs now.
It’s crazy how me, a bachelor, would go out to a club and at 2/3am I’m tired and I want to go home and the married dudes are saying where u de go Na???? Party never finish!!
REALLY???!! Who is cuddling your wife at this ungodly hour? Why is she sleeping alone for Goodness sake!
Even worse is when a married person says Uti introduce me to one small fine girl Na .i de de lonely sometimes.
Very irresponsible but HEAVY STATEMENT.
Married and Lonely?? Hmmmmm
Let’s not forget that thanks to social media some equally lonely and bored housewives are snagging young fit men daily!!!! I mean the rate is alarming!
In some marriages the husbands are constantly cheating as well as the wives??!
So wait, why marry?!!!! Why??
And trust religious Fanatics to say God said a man shall leave his house and find a wife etc. etc.
Really. DID God say a man MUST Marry?!
Is there a commandment that says THALL SHALT MARRY!
Yes Jesus said if you cannot hold yourself from fornicating then marry! But ALAS THERE is a commandment that clearly states: THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY!!!
So let’s not always pull out scriptures to support our bias.
If we do that one we go bible mortal combat. Lol
I dare say this!! NOT EVERYONE IS SUPPOSED TO MARRY!!!!!
I don’t think people know what marriage vows are o!!! People are really take God for granted!!!!
Let’s analyze it:
FORSAKING ALL OTHERS .
TO BE FAITHFUL LOYAL and HONEST.
TO HAVE AND TO HOLD (Meaning no more bikini babes. No more 6pack boys no more random hookups! NO LIES!!!!You shall touch and sleep with only one person for the rest of your LIFE! Hmm is okay. Lol)
IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH!! (No matter how sick your spouse gets. Even if worms are coming out of their body and they smell bad! You have to be there for them!!!!)
FOR BETTER OR WORSE! (No matter how bad things get! Even if Una quarrel and burn down the house! You stay!!)
FOR RICHER OR POORER!!! ( hehehe I won’t even touch this before some babes will say I am swearing for them to marry a poor man but if he does get poor you stay)
And the one that freaks me out. TILL DEATH DO US PART! ( meaning that the only thing that should separate you people is death!)
If you find one who you love and completes you and to a high percentage is reciprocal, then it’s better to just get married and remedy any situation that tries to spoil the union rather than run away from it or find self satisfying alternatives to ease the shit.