Sometime ago, I had a conversation with someone who told me in passing that s/he does not give compliments. The theory behind this, the person said, is that if a person looks good, they should know they look good, making compliments irrelevant. I couldn’t disagree more.
Believe it or not, an encouraging word goes a long way….it touches lives, it inspires others and in many ways, it refreshes the soul. People claim all the time they want to do good in the world…what better way to do it than to encourage people who cross your path. What I’ve learned over time is that you never know what a person is going through and little forms of encouragement can lift a person’s spirits in ways you can’t imagine.
According to the dictionary, to “encourage” means “Give support, confidence, or hope to (someone)”. It feeds perseverance and is in itself a “giving” gesture. It is a way to build someone else up and it is in building others up that we build ourselves up.
In all trying periods in my life, what has kept me going is knowing that there are people who are rooting for me. I have literally had life-defining moments that were motivated simply by a little encouraging word or thoughtful gesture.
What I don’t understand is why it is so hard to give others compliments, to let them know you are praying for them or to just tell them how awesome you think they are or what they did is. Actually, I can theorize it. If you can’t encourage others, its either because of selfishness (the inability to look past yourself to see the good in others) or insecurity (believing that encouraging others belittles you or makes the other person superior).
In the spirit of Christmas, a season of joy and giving, make your gift to others encouragement. Let them know they’re in your thoughts and that you wish them well.
- ~Send someone a “just to say hi/just thought about you/I appreciate you/stay strong/i love your work” text/fb message/bbm/tweet.
- ~Give hugs.
- ~Give someone a compliment….if you think they look nice, tell them so
- ~Ask how someone is doing and actually wait/pay attention to hear the response. Sometimes listening is more effective than speaking.
- ~Share things that have encourage you e.g. a Bible verse, a quote, a blog 😉
- ~Tell those who have encouraged you just how much they have. Show them how much you appreciate them.
- ~Be thoughtful (write a hand-written note, put a card in the mail, buy someone who is broke lunch or send them food, etc)
- ~If someone is going through hardtimes, ask “how can I help?” Its better than the “commonly-said-but-not-meant “Let me know if there’s anything I can do”
- ~Let someone know you’re rooting for them.
- ~Lastly, tell a loved one just how much they mean to you.
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