Domestic Violence: – “The singular reason I left my marriage” – Actress Chika Ike’s Open Letter To Her Fans



Nollywood actress, Chika Ike in an open letter to her fans, described how she suffered physical abuse in the hands her husband for five years. Below is an open letter from the star actress, Chika Ike.

The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there’s really no right time because every second of the day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence. I was a victiim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions,after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him. Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it. I started loosing my self pride,self esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story,I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20yrs old and very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy,who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe.. So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.

Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.



  1. Yes a pitiable issue.chika u are a sweet woman and I sincerly feel for you.I hope u are not the kind of woman that will nag a man to the point of either leaving you forever or shutting u up with a easy for women to scream DOMESTIC VIOLENCE when they actually bring it upon themselves with their words and arrogance.

  2. Sorry about all that’s hapend 2 u I pray its d last of its kind!
    All I av 2 say is “no woman dservs 2 b beaten by any man,no mata wat she’s done,dia r beta ways 2 make a woman see ha wrongz dan hitin ha” its not a fair fing 2 do… Haba mana,men,guys let’s cherish our women nau…

  3. Plz let’s watch wat we say aganis her,@chika am surry d way things turnd out 2 b bt I believe God will find u a beta man who will treat u with diginity n respect.

  4. Wen Somebdy Tells D World Her Story Some Pple Will See It In A Diff Angle But Believe Me Some Of Dis Stories Ar Actually True. Some Men Re Worst Dan A Beast, Common Dia Re Eta Ways To Make A Woman See Her Mistakes Dan Heating Her. My Dear U Did The Right Thing. Ur Life First.

  5. My gal u r 1 of doz actreses i luv so much. I hv heard u, wt u nid is 2 releaz n pray 2 God who wl gv u a man dt wl luv n care 4 u vry much. Take heart!