After my last post on Jaguda.com I told myself that I’m not sure anyone wants to hear my mouth again. I received plenty insults, I actually questioned if I was really normal. But I decided I’m normal. Maybe a special normal, but normal.
Today I’m back with another burning question that I know plagues more than just me. How much older is too old?
So I’m in my twenties, and I consider myself pretty young at heart but right now I’ve had this serious craving for older men. Now I’m not talking men in their 30s o. I’m talking late 40s, pushing 50, and almost grey hair-ish. Think George Clooney (51) or Denzel (57). Fit and in shape. So I’m not talking about some pot bellied governor of some random state that wants me to calling him daddy or uncle, and rub his stomach for him. I mean I can call him daddy but only when… ok you get the point. I’m talking fit older men that still got it.
I’m dating a guy right now, and he’s 19 years older than me, and it’s wonderful. Better than I had ever imagined actually. Fun, exciting, spontaneous, sensually experimental, very understanding and probably the best of all, mature and free of mind games. Plus I get to learn a lot about the 70s that I didn’t know before. Yes I like it.
I’ve dated “small boys” in my age bracket (5 years or so), and often times by time you deal with their immaturity, lack of ambition, limited or rigid bedroom experience, and just general juvenile tendencies, you end up getting bored and just generally pissed off that you gave this small boy a chance in the first place.I don’t have to worry about him choosing between me and his “homeboys.” I could go on and on, but I’ll just stop so it doesn’t look like I’m bashing younger men even though I kinda am. Blame it on my ex.
With my older guy I’ve found that I don’t have to worry about 80% of the things I find annoying in young men.
But the only issue is that my family and most of my friends think he’s too old for me. That I should limit it to less than 10 years older. Often times when he comes around they start acting differently, or they feel they can’t talk about everything. One of my friends even said she can’t talk about bedroom activities cos she feels she’s around an uncle. Urgh! If only she knew what this “uncle” could do. Another friend said I look like one of those ashawos in Lagos always spotted with older men.
But who made that rule abeg? Is there a hard age gap where it becomes too old? My friends and family say above 10 years older is too much. Some others have said 7 years is the limit.I mean I’m just dating him for the fun of it, not like I want to marry him (or anyone for that matter), so why not just have fun and enjoy the experience while I have without over-thinking it or getting judged all over the place.
So I decided to bring this to the wonderful people at Jaguda.com. How much older is too old? 5 years? 10 years? 15? 20? Both as a girl and as a guy.
I’d love to hear the responses.
Side-note: Meanwhile what is an older man called? Like older women are cougars, so what name do older men have? Just curious