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Do Men Love Bitches?

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Breaking News: Men love Bitches.

So, women regularly call men dogs, men return the favor referring to women as bitches. I am as feminist a 21ST century woman can be (without the bra burning of course). For a long time I was offended by the word “bitches” I felt it was derogatory, insulting, objectifying and many more things. Yet the older I grew I realized that some women are bitches, and there’s just no other word for it. Now as a good Christian girl, I don’t say the word out loud but I sure do think it. You knowingly sleep with another woman’s man? Bitch. You mess with men’s heads just to get money from them? Bitch. You spread rumors about another girl because you are jealous? Bitch. I think you get the picture.

Now, after a particularly messy break-up I decided I was done with playing wifey. Why would I spend my time cooking, cleaning, and bending over backward for a guy who hasn’t put a ring on it? So I decided no more, I was going to give as good as I got, No More Miss Nice. When I announced this decision to a friend of mine she gave me a synopsis of the book “Why Men Love Bitches”. I laughed so hard because I really couldn’t believe it, no man wanted a bitchy girl over a sweet one, I was sure of that. Besides, I wasn’t leaving my nice girl persona because I wanted men to love me, but because I just didn’t want to have anything to do with them.

I was sure this was going to make me a social pariah; no guy would be interested in a girl like me, right? Wrong. I got more attention than I ever had in my life. It seemed that the more demanding, less compromising, more uninterested and more like a “bitch” I acted, they couldn’t get enough. I was confounded, I wanted these guys to leave me alone and they were sticking like white on rice. These men were by the no means the scum of the earth, a lot of them were very decent. There were a few dogs in the mix of course and for them I had no sympathy. But after a while I began to feel bad for the good men.

I felt perplexed why would any good man put up with a woman who acted like a spoilt 7 year old? Before anyone says for the sex, I wasn’t sleeping with these men. And even if I was, would sex (even amazing sex) make a man stay with a women whose attitude sucks? I started looking around
and I realized that the girls who demanded that guys take them shopping, buy the new i-phone or whatever gadget caught their attention seemed to have the men who behaved best. While, the nice understanding ones keep getting made fools of. What kind of a crazy world do we live in?

I am not a man and I cannot claim to understand this phenomena. I am also not old enough to have the privilege of seeing what becomes of the women I know now (bitchy and nice). Ultimately, for me I decided that the mean girl persona is not who I am. I definitely came away from that phase of my life more assertive, confident and blunt as heck. But I am still the type of woman who wants to take care of people, and I love both aspects of myself.

However, I am still perplexed, so please, if you have an answer for me, leave a comment


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  • @dimjoe January 30, 2012 at 6:38 am

    let me tel u wat guys want…..A BITCH IN D BED (BUT CAN nEver BE COMIITED) and later a good girl who is a freak (dat is wife material)…..Tho we will still misbehave but we hardly leave the gud one…d OTHER bitch can always b replaced……DIFF IS WE SEE BITCHES WIT OUR EYES, AND WE SEE THE GOOD GIRL WITH OUR HEART……..

  • Johnson Olalekan January 30, 2012 at 12:43 pm

    Sumtimes ago sumbody ask me “my kind of woman” nd i answer “my woman kind shud b a woman outside bt a bitch on bed”.dont b surprise dat is d way it shud b nd dont ask me why.and dt is reason why u see all nice going after bitch.

    • Vikolo February 8, 2012 at 5:36 am

      Korret!!!

  • efimilejo January 30, 2012 at 12:48 pm

    Nice people almost always carry last. You need to be spicy and sweet at the same time. Think cinnamon

  • shim January 30, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    I think its offensive to call a woman a bitch regardless of whatever cynical self help book you’re reading.

    • ByteChunks January 31, 2012 at 1:01 am

      True…..

    • eyannla February 1, 2012 at 12:48 pm

      If a person acts in a certain manner and you call them a name that describes their attitude, it is not an insult but a statement of fact.

  • Dammie January 30, 2012 at 7:20 pm

    I love bitches but babe I can’t marry u..that’s d bitter truth I would rather give my heart to that good one and keep u to warm my bed for me..when am done with you then its bye bye..

  • KeepingItReal January 30, 2012 at 8:52 pm

    We stick around bitches cos we know they’d open those legs soon (or at least we hope) … But we get married to good gals … Only fools marry bitches and bitches know where to find them when it is marriage time :)

  • Lizzy Bennet February 1, 2012 at 9:45 am

    Hmmm…so I guess the answer I am getting is that men will put up with anything for sex, they just won't commit.
    @Shim, I wasn't reading any self help books, just observing and living.

  • Kulharbey February 4, 2012 at 6:03 am

    I hate calling gurls Bitches,coz the word does not sounds gud to me,I know they are,But not until I called one such.I hang out wif wat galz av to show me,I sense a lot n I’ll knw where she’s heading wif ♍e. All gurls я bitches,even the gud gal you said you’ll get married to.

  • Mario February 8, 2012 at 6:10 pm

    Let me be frank. I wouldnt speak for anyoda man but ma self. I hate Bitches . I love d caring and sexy homely once. Cos i would wanna end up with ‘em if dey would let me.

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