So a few days ago, there was this whole debate on twitter about how much a guy should spend on an engagement ring for his soon to be wife. Of course a conversation like that is always bound to get very interesting and lots of comments were made but one really stuck out to me.
I’ll just give the context. If a man is proposing with a relatively “cheap” ring then the woman wont accept. Yea I know… Who would think right? But what is cheap though? One of the things that flew around twitter that night was the engagement ring should be 3 times the man’s monthly salary. So it might be safe to assume that anything less than that is considered cheap right? So let’s say you bank about 4ooo dollars after tax, then a $4000 ring is considered cheap because you should actually buy a $12000 ring as per 3 times your monthly salary.
So if I buy a ring that is not up to par I should pretty much expect my girlfriend to say no. Ummm…Flag on the play. Fa Fa Fa Foul! I highly doubt that any girl would stay there examining the ring and deciding if the ring is worth it or not before she says yes, and if she does then there’s a problem somewhere and nah there the thing go end for both of us.
I mean from all the engagements I’ve seen, the girl is halfway in tears almost and all her friends are shouting “Say Yes! Say Yes!” (if in public) so I don’t know where in that time she’ll just be like “Hmmm… Bros bring that ring make I scope first. I’ll get back to you in the morning when I gather the statistics and compare it your salary.” Abegi.
So what’s the fascination with the worth of the ring anyways? One popular answer was “it shows how much he loves you.” So let’s get this right? The worth of the ring = How much he loves you, so the love get price? Them get 1000 dollar love, and 5000 dollar love and 50 naira love I suppose. Whatever happened to “Whether Nah One Naira?” (I knew that song was film trick lol). To me personally it doesn’t make sense. If a guy gives you a ring then hey, nah there him money reach. Chances are if it’s a guy you want to marry and you’ve been in a good relationship with then he’ll buy a good enough ring that wont shame him or you.
In one instance I heard of girls and their friends going to appraise the ring to find out the worth. I mean is all that really necessary? Please lord if I find out my wife went to find out if my ring was good enough for her, I go collect my ring back dash am to charity. Madness!
If you ask me, this whole “how much the ring cost” is nothing more than a way for girls to compete with themselves and show off to their friends. Add Jennifer Anniston and all those other million dollar ring wearers into the mix plus some TMZ and Entertainment tonite, and you have this unrealistic fascination with engagement rings.
I mean what happened to good ole carrying palmwine to your father’s house and asking for that “flower in the garden”? All this oyimbo tings don tire person jare. I’m if you look back you’ll see that most of our parents didn’t even do all that engagement ring kini.
Anyways, I don yarn enough. But ladies though, for real, what’s the fascination with the worth of the ring? Do y’all really look at it as a measure of his love for you? Would you say no if it’s not worth 3 times his salary (assuming you actually find out the price)?
Please I need answers. So I know if I need to rob central bank biko.
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