The Engagement Ring Should Be…

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So a few days ago, there was this whole debate on twitter about how much a guy should spend on an engagement ring for his soon to be wife. Of course a conversation like that is always bound to get very interesting and lots of comments were made but one really stuck out to me.

I’ll just give the context. If a man is proposing with a relatively “cheap” ring then the woman wont accept. Yea I know… Who would think right? But what is cheap though? One of the things that flew around twitter that night was the engagement ring should be 3 times the man’s monthly salary. So it might be safe to assume that anything less than that is considered cheap right? So let’s say you bank about 4ooo dollars after tax, then a $4000 ring is considered cheap because you should actually buy a $12000 ring as per 3 times your monthly salary.

So if I buy a ring that is not up to par I should pretty much expect my girlfriend to say no. Ummm…Flag on the play. Fa Fa Fa Foul! I highly doubt that any girl would stay there examining the ring and deciding if the ring is worth it or not before she says yes, and if she does then there’s a problem somewhere and nah there the thing go end for both of us.

I mean from all the engagements I’ve seen, the girl is halfway in tears almost and all her friends are shouting “Say Yes! Say Yes!” (if in public) so I don’t know where in that time she’ll just be like “Hmmm… Bros bring that ring make I scope first. I’ll get back to you in the morning when I gather the statistics and compare it your salary.” Abegi.

So what’s the fascination with the worth of the ring anyways? One popular answer was “it shows how much he loves you.” So let’s get this right? The worth of the ring = How much he loves you, so the love get price? Them get 1000 dollar love, and 5000 dollar love and 50 naira love I suppose. Whatever happened to “Whether Nah One Naira?” (I knew that song was film trick lol). To me personally it doesn’t make sense. If a guy gives you a ring then hey, nah there him money reach. Chances are if it’s a guy you want to marry and you’ve been in a good relationship with then he’ll buy a good enough ring that wont shame him or you.

In one instance I heard of girls and their friends going to appraise the ring to find out the worth. I mean is all that really necessary? Please lord if I find out my wife went to find out if my ring was good enough for her, I go collect my ring back dash am to charity. Madness!

If you ask me, this whole “how much the ring cost” is nothing more than a way for girls to compete with themselves and show off to their friends. Add Jennifer Anniston and all those other million dollar ring wearers into the mix plus some TMZ and Entertainment tonite, and you have this unrealistic fascination with engagement rings.

I mean what happened to good ole carrying palmwine to your father’s house and asking for that “flower in the garden”? All this oyimbo tings don tire person jare. I’m if you look back you’ll see that most of our parents didn’t even do all that engagement ring kini.

Anyways, I don yarn enough. But ladies though, for real, what’s the fascination with the worth of the ring? Do y’all really look at it as a measure of his love for you? Would you say no if it’s not worth 3 times his salary (assuming you actually find out the price)?

Please I need answers. So I know if I need to rob central bank biko.

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10 COMMENTS

  1. Heheheh o boi u dey vex sha….to me d worth of d ring doesn’t really matter o..there is more to a marriage dan an engagement ring.infact dats jst a beginnin…d guy has to plan a weddin,n also plan his future wiv yu..gurls should put dat into consideration first…an affordable ring is just okay

  2. It's really all for show. The ring is supposed to be a symbol but some babes would prefer for someone to empty their life savings just so they can bling and brag. Hiss
    A month's salary is fine. You have the rest of your lives together. When things get better, the ring can always be upgraded.

  3. The ring is simply a symbol of the love & commitment you share… not the measure of it. I honestly stand cannot seeing an engagement ring that is the size of a coffee table on a girl's finger… like how is that even comfortable? But to each, his own. I feel the ring should reflect the style of your soon to be wife, afterall, it is jewelry.

  4. It’s not always about the girl wanting to show off! My ex wanted to buy me a pn expensive one. His reason was “when you walk into the room, I want people to envy you and know that you are mine” he wants people to look at the gurl twice! so my dear, it’s not all about the woman oh. Some men are just full of themselves and won’t mind spending that much.

  5. Yes,.. the author does sound like an el’cheapo 🙂 Anyway na condition wey make crayfish bend – make we no judge am’.

    Let me begin by answering your questions.
    But ladies though, for real, what’s the fascination with the worth of the ring?
    It’s not the fascination with the worth of the ring but mostly the fascination of the thought behind the ring – we females like to form. Abeg leave that thing – GUYS DO NOT BELIEVE THE HYPE OVER AN ENGAGEMENT RING!

    Do y’all really look at it as a measure of his love for you?
    NO BLOODY WAY!

    Would you say no if it’s not worth 3 times his salary (assuming you actually find out the price)?
    NO. That’s one of the silliest things I’ve ever heard.

    In my opinion l think it all depends on the people and their pocket involved in the relationship 🙂 Why anyone in this depression would want to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars for a ring is beyond me. On the other hand, no woman would appreciate a ring that if they happen to steal she won’t miss. Like the crap Derwin gave Melanie..LOL. Just something reasonable.

  6. I understand splurging and doing it big if you can, but when a guy is bringing 4000 a month and then u want a $12,000 ring, na God go personally punish you. How una go take chop after the ring? how una go take see mortgage/ rent money? I'll see how cute you'll be with a $12,000 ring in a homeless shelter. What a load of bull!! And then just imagine after spending that much on the ring, having her lose the ring in the shower, or where ever else; omo na to put the babe ontop ebay. see levus o! And even if the guy is banking heavily, and making 4milli a month, e mean say the babe go want 12 milli ring. OLE!!!!! Fear no go catch u to wear 12 milli ring? Even your papa never see 12 milli ring and na u wan rock am. The ring is a symbol and that message has been long lost. Its all about bragging and seeing who shine pass the sun. It's all BS as far as i am concerned.

    • Damn … Lmao, it funny though. But relax :-). Well i want 3 month's worth of my boyfriends's salary when he proposes.

  7. ARIBABA, GOD BLESS U! I PREFARE PALM WINE NO RING… I JUST READ THIS… SINCERELY MY GUY I DE MAKE PASS THE $4,000 BUT I NO GO SPOIL MONEY ON ANY METAL RING… THE CORRECT WRITES ARE ENOUGH TO SHOW WE ARE TOGETHER… INSHORT THE RING NO GET FEELING OR DEY STORE FEELINGS FOR NO ONE… IN GOD I TRUST & ALL RIGHTS CORRECT FOR BOTH OF US… MAKE SOMEONE COME ASK ME IF I DON MARRY AM AFTER I DON PAY DOWRY FINISH.

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