News broke out today via Linda Ikeji’s blog about 5 boys/men that ganged raped a girl for several hours at Abia State University and video taped the whole incident. The tape allegedly being about an hour long which included periods where the girl pleaded and cried while the men threatened to continue the ordeal for days if she didn’t corporate.
A very barbaric act by these men, and even though I haven’t seen the video, the thought of it makes me sick to my stomach. But even the thought of it doesn’t make me as sick as the discussions that continued afterwards.
Barely waking up this morning, as a twitter addict, I reached to my phone as always and quickly caught up on what the hot topic was. A discussion about the incident was buzzing and I realized that a lot of people (men especially) somehow in their minds have given some sort of criteria on who is allowed to be raped or when it’s ok to be raped. A “make me feel better” checklist if you will.
Some of the statements I saw on twitter down right made me sick. “Oh some babes that wear short dresses are asking for it,” “When you go a guy’s house at one kind time, what do you expect?“, “What if nah ashawo sef?” Like for real?… Is that how we see it now? Girl in the short dress is “asking” for it? So if a guy walks around with no shirt on, and another guy comes and rapes him in the a$$, that’s cool because he was showing off his body anyways.
As much as I do think everyone should be careful with everything in life, and be alert, I despise the fact that some people have given some sort of grounds for justifying rape. Rape by definition is any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person. So it can’t be asked for if it’s forceful. That’s contradictory.
A man with violent sexual intentions will do his evil deeds on a woman even if she’s wearing long wrapper to her ankles, or she’s never been out to the club, or she’s sitting in her house minding her business. What a rapist will do, he’ll do and every other silly excuse is just plain stupid.
We (Men especially), need to stop talking trash and giving people stupid and flimsy excuses for crimes committed. We might as well justify everything else in the world.
This is somewhat of a vent post so I’ll go ahead and conclude by answering the question at the header… So who deserves to be raped?
Not the girl in mini skirt, or the girl out late at night, or the girl dancing in the club, or the ashawo on the corner, or the girl that comes to your house late at night, or the housegirl, or the babe that’s doing shakara. No one…. Absolutely No One deserves to be raped.
…and I’m done.
Image Source: http://notherapedocumentary.org/behind-the-no-camera