Are Nigerian Women Being Cheated

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I recently received an email that made me sit up and think. A friend of mine is in the process of getting her British citizenship, and she joined a public forum that discusses the process. The excerpt below is from an exchange with another forum member,

the spouse route seems to be the fastest even in America or Canada spouse route is still the fastest but not the easiest because living with a white or mix race isn’t that easy at all because we Nigerians have got culture but they haven’t and that makes a very big difference mentality wise…

Let me give u just once example…the French people have culture and one of it is that a man would sit and watch TV while the woman do the cooking that doesn’t mean all men will do that but that’s just one of their culture, their women are far different from the British women. I think the British women are the worst women u can ever live with. Don’t get me wrong as there are good ones out there too but pretty hard to find…other European countries most of them have culture like the Portuguese, Greece, Spanish and others, check their women or any woman from any European country; You will see that they are far different from the British woman…

I’m talking out of experience as I have lived with one for 3yrs and I find it hard to cope. I have done 10 or even 100 times better things that I wouldn’t have done even half for a Naija girl to her. I bought her a car (2005 Honda jazz) on her birthday; take her on holiday do a lot of things that I haven’t done for a Naija girl before but guess what, she never shows any appreciation. So to me, they are ungrateful. And most of my friend who are with one, either white or mix, complain about the same thing. I don’t really blame any of them I just think their problem is they make their kids grow too quick without proper home training. Anyway, I might move back to Naija before ending of the year…Not sure but I’m definitely thinking about it.”

So this email is full of realities that we Nigerians or foreigners have to deal with, some a little racist but that is his opinion on foreign culture and granted we all have them. And yes, this man is clearly a “citizenship-digger”. But I had to stop at one point. When he said he has done 100 times more stuff for his non-Nigerian wife than he would have for any Naija girl it made me wonder…. Are Nigerian women being cheated?

I’m noticing this trend among Nigerian men, they may do a little bit for their fellow country woman but let them get with an exotic /mixed/foreign babe of non-black origin and it is as though they can’t spoil them enough. And they will be running to the altar to marry them. However, Ada and Bisi will have to roast for 7+ years before Ade or Emeka will agree to call them their wife. Clearly, the cultural differences make an interracial relationship difficult as this man has realized. However, in my opinion, he is the fool. You make your bed, you must lie in it…. Abi? And he did it all for the wrong reasons.

The fact remains that, I know too many Nigerian men that will drop a couple grand on a foreign babe before they give their sister 10 naira. It’s also evident in the music videos of some (I won’t call names) artists, their dream babe is a foreigner…. Hmmmm, who is buying your records? Nkechi or Nikita? And don’t give me the excuse of entering foreign markets.

Anyway, I want to hear your views on this, Jaguda.com readers.

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13 COMMENTS

  1. This na old story. Even looking at inter-tribal couples, an Igbo guy will treat his Yoruba wife ten times better than he would have an Igbo chick. That's why Yoruba women think Igbo guys make the best husbands. (I'm always cracking up when I hear that)

  2. The men that do this have a complex and no Nigerian woman deserves that anyways. That's why i will always stress the need for African women to date out. Stop limiting yourself. Working to the bone and coming home to cook some big ass meal everyday does not have to be your reality.

  3. You couldn't have said it better. We are definitely being cheated. Well the time has come and a lot of yankee and jand naija babes are beginning to shine their eyes. Oh and the answer to your question, yes we are being cheated and only the nkechi's and tola's dey buy their record not the shaquinta and nikita's. 1 cent of mine won't go to that rubbish.

  4. Interesting point here oh…. but i personally think we give off the wrong signal on how b treated sometimes. Every woman, NIgerian, Jamaican, American, Indian or which ever corner of the world you hail from, deserves to be treated good. And i think ladies do have a say in however they are treated. Set your rules straight, If they are not met, my dear, carry your bag dey go, there are millions of guys waiting to treat u as you will wish… and for the 9ja guys who just think they can "cheat," us, im sorry for you, you're not cheating us, you're creating a generation of women who will only grown resentment for Naija guys and then so the so called "home training," will just be a thing of the past.

    • FACTS! THINK?
      THERE R PLENTY WOMEN OUT THERE WAITING FOR MISTER RIGHT 'WEN NEVER COME, DEM PLENTY FOR CHURCH DEY WAIT' … "AS THEM DEY GO, NA SO DEM DEY CAM, UR TIME DEY PASS.." REMAIN THERE… AS THE SAME CULTURE DEMANDS A WOMAN IS NEVER RESPECTED IF SHE NO GET A "MR" BY HER SIDE… WOMEN WITH RESENTMENT WILL STILL END UP MARRING A MAN WITH 10 WIVES MAKING THEM NUMBER 11… I ONLY BELIEVE ANY WOMAN COMPLAINING SHE HERSELF DONT KNOW HER VALUE… & WILL BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED… EVEN THE MEN PLAY OUT THERE, THEY STILL FALL BACK TO THE TRUE AFRICAN WOMAN WITH CULTURE & VALUE… "RESENTMENT BY THE AFRICAN WOMEN" IS ABOUT TO CREATE A FUTURE AFRICA WITH NO CULTURE… LIKE NOW AFRICA IS NOW ACCEPTING THE GAY PPLS CULTURE… HA! NAH WAO…… AS WOMAN PLENTY REACH TWO MAN PIKIN GO MARRY DEMSLEVES OR TWO WOMAN MARRY…. HAAAAA!! HABA WHY UNA WAN KILL AFRICA & ITS BEAUTIES???

  5. As i have mentioned here before, all these things are all due to underlying issues like environment, up bringing, self confidence etc.
    Its all about knowing value of what u have regardless of culture and all that jazz cos we are all individuals….
    A woman should also have a minimum requirement and if a guy doesnt meet up to it, he must bounce….. You must also take into consideration the fact that nigerian women are pressured into marriage by their family and that also leads to the acceptance of what is there rather than what they really want in a man…..
    I could go on and on but at the end of the day, a men and woman should be certain about what they want and if the requirements are not met na bye bye….

    Easier said than done though….

  6. i live in London ontario, and there arent that much black babes to begin with. the few ones available, trust me, they make me understand why a man would rather spend money on foreign babes than on them. naija girls too de form. yeah i said it. sue me. seriously. they want this or they want that, or they want to go here, or they want to do that, they always set their expectations waaaaay too high. i was with a bunch of em at a gig sometime ago and one of them retorted that she wanted a tall handsome blond haired blue eyed bobo to sweep her off her feet. meanwhile there are plenty tall dark and handsome naija boys lurking around willing to do anything for em. bottom line is, a naija guy knows the trouble he has to go through to land himself some naija chickm and when they finally do, they are tired of it already before it even begins. naija chicks know what they have to do if they want to be treated like queens just like white girls. quit forming rubbish.

  7. Lol @ who is buying your records.. Nkechi ooo. Anyways, I understand the point of this article and I agree with some of the above comments, some Naija girls have really unrealistic expectations sometimes and like to form. HOWEVER, in their defense, a lot of girls are only that way as a result of their upbringing. I'm Nigerian by blood, Canadian by birth and upbringing so a lot of guys are always like "oh you're not like other naija girls" DUH, I'm a product of a different environment.

    From what I can see though, a lot of guys complain Nigerian girls are too materialistic as well but these are the same guys that are spending their rent money popping bottles and buying hummers and sporting LV, you're setting the standard!

  8. My last point is that the type of man being described in the post who does way more for girls of other cultures than Naija girls are the obvious paper diggers. If it they were really looking for love and finding a culture that blends, they wouldn't be dating all these girls. It's obvious that getting foreign papers is more important.

    One more point, LADIES, regardless of your upbringing, once you become an adult, it's your responsibility to set the standard for how you are to be treated. So if you see Emeka doing A B & C for Brittany, you deserve that too but you have to act in a manner that conveys that to these men. 😉

  9. There is something you do not understand. It isn't because they are foreigners that the women get treated better. They get treated better simply because the dude is trying to get papers, so ANY thing the woman asks for, she gets. Whether its a British woman, American woman or Nigerian woman. Men who need papers from their women, treat them like gold, by force or by choice. That is the explanation to your conundrum.

  10. I agree with most of τ̲̅ђe comments above but i have A̶̲̥̅̊ contrary opinion which i think is men don’t really appreciate what they have

  11. Sorry if anyone should be offended by my post, however, I am a bi-racial American girl and I dated a few Nigerian men. I can honestly say that Nigerian men are very generous, and are willing to provide you with what ever you ask of them, but they are big time cheaters.
    I think it is cultural. I would like to say that they cheat without remorse. In my country that is just unacceptable. Consequently, it appears that Nigerian women just turn a blind eye.
    The men are extremely possessive, however, while dating you they are maintaining 2 or 3 other girlfriends . For example, Femi married to a lovely Russian girl with two children, but he chases women without haste.
    Please I don't understand, I believe it is a cultural norm.

    • ITS THE AFRICAN CULTURE TO HAVE THEM AS U CAN AFFORD MENTALLY OR PHYSICALLY… IN NIGERIA THE TOO MUCH CULTURE MAKES THE WOMEN KEEP TO THEMSELVES, AND DIFFICULT TO SEE THEM FREE AND ANY HOW U HAVE TO WORK TO GET A BETTER WOMAN… BUT IN UR CONTRY IT IS YANFU YANFU, MEANING IT IS FREE AND EVERY WHERE(WOMEN)… THEN STRONG & INTELLIGENT THEY ARE(NIJA MEN) THEY WILL ENTER THEM LIKE KNIFE INSIDE BUTTER

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