My boy-friend for 3 years jokingly asked me if I was ready to marry him. I told him to give me few days to pray about it. I love him so much that I bless God everyday for giving me all the good qualities I want all encompassed in one man. I prayed about it and also sought my cousin’s advice. I have no idea why I asked her because I was pretty sure I was going to say yes to my boyfriend. But I thought I should ask anyway. Stupid me!!!
After I asked my cousin what she thinks about the whole thing, she told me to say no to my boyfriend because according to her, I am still young( age 25) and I should have fun and let no man hinder my life especially in my fun-filled years. She gave sooo many reasons why she thinks I should turn-down my boyfriend. Stupid me once again, I actually bought her idea. I was contemplating telling my boyfriend to give me time to have fun but something happened that shocked me. My cousin logged into her facebook account with my laptop and forgot to log off. I don’t really know what I was thinking, but I found myself checking her facebook messages. I know that is nosy and rude but I unconsciously did it. In one of her messages to a guy, she said “ You keep saying I should give you time, I am not getting any younger, i am already 25 years old, all my mates are getting married but you not saying anything to me. I want to get married this year, love you” The guy replied “ I understand you but we just met so we need to get to know each other better to get into something as serious as marriage. Love u too baby”
I could not believe my eyes. Is this the same cousin of mine that asked me to turn down a proposal? Thank God for unconsciously taking me to her inbox. I called my boyfriend ASAP and told him I would marry him, if he officially proposed. In less than a month, he proposed to me and that has been the best decision I ever made. My cousin grumbled and rolled her eyes and told me that I was headstrong and too stupid to commit my life to a man. Little did she know that I knew how desperate she wants marriage. My fiancé bought me a brand new 2011 lexus ES and you need to see the way my cousin was condemning the car. “ I don’t like lexus cars at all, they are cheap and ugly.” She also condemned my decision to accept the car “ I would never take anything from a man, watch it, your fiancé would have no regards for you anymore. Maybe you should return the car.”
I just smiled in my head and saw envy and bitterness in her heart. I learnt never to seek anyone’s opinion in making a big decision, I just ask God and ask myself because you never know the heart of man. Some people may give you advice to downplay your thoughts but they really wish they were in your shoes, your family members are not an exception. May the good Lord have mercy.