If you’ve been observing the Twitter scene, you will notice that lately people have taken to repping all kinds of teams… #Teamnatural, #Teamlonghairdontcare, #Teambreezy, #TeamIblowgarri, #TeamIdeychopfiletmignon, #Teamthis and #Teamthat. As for me, I stay representing for #Teamsiddondeylook and as a member of this team, I pretty much like to sit and observe the going-ons on Twirra. I do not necessarily comment on everything that I see, but like someone tweeted the other day, and I paraphrase…“I am sipping wine, reading your tweets and judging all of you”. Hahaha.
As I’ve been sipping my imaginary wine and observing the tweet scene, I’ve observed a lot of random types of e-personalities/tweets. The ones that I will address today, are the so called internet meanies and e-bullies. As in, I don’t know when it suddenly became cool to be an internet gangsta or meanie but it seems like that is what is popping these days. Some of these mean people are just flat out mean, while others try to mask their own under the guise of humor…at someone else’s expense. And of course, if you’re a so called ‘popular jingo’ on Twitter, everyone just RTs your meanness with a bunch of ‘LOLs’, LWKMDs’ and what have you as opposed to calling it out for what it really is. Of course, I’m sure that the individuals who have earned their reputations as the mean girls and boys on Twitter probably claim to ‘keep it real’, claim that ‘it’s just for fun’ or might even say things like “It’s just the internet, and I am not my tweets” but c’mon…really though?[commercial break]Can I just take a quick minute to address that phrase… “I am not my tweets”…umm, then what are you? I guess some people log onto Twitter and assume a whole new personality on some I am not my tweets. Abegi, if you’re going to be a bitch/irritant/meanie/sexpot/spiro and all the random personas that I see on Twitter, then please own it because you are your tweets (and you ain’t fooling anybody either) [/end commercial break].
Back to regularly scheduled programming, there is a thin line between keeping it real and flat out being mean, rude and just generally extra. As in, must you always comment on everything that you see? Sometimes it doesn’t hurt to just close your eyes, shut your mouth abi hold your fingers and keep it moving. And sometimes, we as individuals generally need to take a step back and think about how your words might have an effect on someone else. You might think “Oh, I’m tweeting from my little corner in Alaska and the recipient of this tweet is all the way in Nigeria…he/she doesn’t know me and vice versa” but still…are your words necessary? Do they affect the price of crayfish in the market? As you type those mean things, does it make you feel better about yourself? Why art thou so mean?
And while I’m talking about individual meanness, let me quickly address concept this concept of e-bullying (aka collective meanness) where a group of folks gang up on some random hapless person. Like ahn ahn! When we read stories of bullying in high schools, we feel outraged, but believe me folks…the ish happens on Twitter and from my siddondeylook angle, it is just not cool. I guess its all fun and games for all, until you’re the one on the receiving end and then you can see how it feels to be the target of such insensitive attacks.
So, in summary…wetin I dey yarn? You can keep it 100% without resorting to some mean girl/mean boy tactics. You can speak your mind without being a total bitch about it. And, just because everyone is going in on someone and making them the butt of jokes, doesn’t mean that you have to join in the fun. Ultimately, if it doesn’t need to be said, then you don’t have to say it. Sure, it might provide entertainment and laughs for some, but in the end what goal have you achieved? I personally look at such people and think ‘eeek!’ …but that’s just me in my little corner. Now I’m not claiming to be Miss perfect, but hey…at least I try to respect myself and respect other people. It really doesn’t take much…
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