Where is the most religious country in the world? You guessed it… Nigeria. Enter any major city in the country and you are bound to see a church on almost every corner or a huge mosque in the heart of the city. It’s not news… We love to worship in that country. But what still baffles me, is with all that church church, and praying at 5am in the morning, we are still a highly immoral country. Armed robbers, and kidnappers are all over the place… 19 boys are still doing their thing, militants, religious extremists killing each other, prostitutes in major cities like they are giving away free entry to heaven, and people are visiting the jazzman steady.
But probably what bothers me the most of all the immorality, and hypocrisy in our “great” nation Nigeria is the BS we call a marriage institution. It’s almost like a load of crap in naija. *excuse my language*
Now I’m not sure if we were just madly naïve when we were younger or things just took a turn for the worse, but it seems like that thing called marriage in naija is a big joke (no offense to the happily married, because I’m sure there are some)
I was talking to friend that lives in naija… Single girl, with a masters degree, and by most people’s standards she’s a pretty good catch. As per normal jokes now I was like…”So when u dey marry now?”…and she responded that there are no toasters oo. All her toasters are married men. Ah ah… I’m like… Ok. I know some married men do their runs here and there, but for her to say it’s only married men toasting her I was kinda surprised. She told me, “omo these days nah married men dey do pass o… Always in the clubs with girlfriends, and such and it’s become so normal for everyone to have a wife and a girlfriend… Normal P.” As in no hiding nothing.
On the flipside, young babes too dey chook eye for married men. Apparently, all nah for no strings attached loving and spoiling. No hiding… A significant number of babes in naija have their boyfriend and their “uncle.” My distant cousin once told me, “it’s not like I don’t love my bf, but I need that uncle to spoil me every now and then, and my bf can’t do that… Plus I know the man won’t leave his wife so it’s a win win… No emotions.” On some BB Babes levels. LOL.
Me sef I won’t say all this is news, but I must say that the fact that it’s so wide open is kinda baffling. In her words, “my husband is going to cheat anyways with a younger girl, so I might as well do my own now.”…and so the cycle continues. Tomorrow we’ll all go to church and shout “He’s a miracle working God.” Such hypocrisy.
Let’s not even get into the cougars in naija these days… Organizing guys left and right, or the 50+ year old men chasing 16 year old babes… Una no dey shame? Tufiakwa!! *sorry I had to*… What are we supposed to tell teach our kids?
It’s like everything we preach to ourselves and our children everyday, we do the exact opposite. What’s the point? Everyone might as well be open with it and we can just have a free for all, and forget about faking religion, so we know that nah us bad pass.
I’m not saying these things don’t happen in other places and parts of the world, but the level and the hypocrisy that goes with it in Naija I believe is unrivaled… Then again I haven’t visited every country in the world.
Anyways… Enough of my rant. Sometimes I think all the prayers we pray in that country has been blocked by some screen from reaching God, because we pray and pray and then go and do evil after service or after the mosque.
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