Right after typing this title, I felt a sighof relief cause this is the last point I will be delving into as I close out on these five differently titled series from LIVING THE FALSE NOTION, IT IS STANDARDS NOT EGO, EXCUSES……AGAIN? STOP PLEASE, SOMETHING OUT OF NOTHING? ,to finally this. I have actually learnt a lot from each typed word, gotten in contact with a bunch of cool people, received a deluge of comments and alsa overall the positive feedback outweigh the negatives, thankfully.
As I fall within this age range, I have come to observe that whether she’s 21 or 29, she always feels she’s running out of time. One thing you must understand is that pressure is not real. You are real and when you give attention to or come under the dominance of something that is impotent, you give it potency – you give it power. That is why this thing we call ‘pressure’ has the effect it has. You give it the effect. You are the effect. Some of you ladies are afraid – afraid that you might not be married by a certain time. You begin the calculations, ‘Ok, I’m 28 now, if I break this up, how long it will take to find another guy and get married? Ouch! It may take another 4 years and I’ll be 32. No! I can’t be single at 30.” You are killing yourself with this kind of dialogue.
A girl friend of mine, who is 23 called me up to talk about her ‘man’ troubles.(It seems like everyone talks to me but truly I just seem to have ears that can listen to friends who need someone to talk to. I found it a problem half solved for me when I have people to talk to). During our conversation, I observed that she had always been in a sexual relationship since she was 15. She confessed to me that she didn’t want to be alone; actually she didn’t know how to be alone. You see, you do yourself a huge injustice when you spend your formative years interrupted. Sex interrupts. It stops your creative and intellectual development and gives strength to your emotional cravings which should still be asleep. Your formative years are years you spend forming your person and your identity in readiness for your service to the world. Unfortunately, ladies give that time and space to some guy – a guy who may not even be in your life past your 30th birthday.
Sometimes we are driven by those voices of ignorance that may have come from people we love, so we try hard to get into a relationship and make it work. “Oh! This one has to work cos I’m almost 30.” Screw him and screw 30. You are more valuable to yourself and to the world than the timeline of your eggs or your age. Your world will not come to an end if you are not married by 30; in fact, it may just be beginning!
Always believe the best. He/She sees you at your worst but never forgets your best; thinks you’re a little bit more wonderful than you really are; will talk with you endlessly or just sit with you in silence; is happier about your success than you are; doesn’t try to know more, act smarter or be your constant teacher; He/She listens even when what you have to say is not particularly interesting. That’s because love believes you’re important!
Seriously much said already. There’s no need to compromise your true integrity and I will encourage you guys to read all the five articles but truly I love and pray for y’all and I appreciate your time. I ALSO SERIOUSLY NEED TO ACKNOWLEDGE EKENE AGABU’S WRITEUP “5 mistakes women make“,WHICH HELPED FUEL THESE ARTICLES. I ONLY TRIED TO REPACKAGE THE ARTICLE NOT TO INUNDATE COMPLIMENTS BUT ONLY SERVE AS A LEARNING TOOL. I THINK I NEED A VACATION NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW