Excuses Again?… Stop Please

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First I have to appreciate those of you who took time to read and even comment on the article that preceded this, “IT IS STANDARDS NOT EGO”. I  truly appreciate all the comments, I am really a busy person hustling in God we trust country but my insatiable passion for writing and to keep it up is always fuelled by the compliments I receive and the need to speak some truths even when it hurt, so thanks to you all.

Now here I come, I am truly getting sick and tired even somewhat confused when  ladies see the handwritings on the wall and continually make excuses to justify a man’s blatant abuse  or disregard towards them.
I have come to observe that ladies often see the man as the prize. So once  it looks like they have him – especially if he appears to be a good one,(cute looking,nice job) – they want to do everything in their power to keep him. I understand that, but I don’t accept that and neither should you.

I recently took my talent to south beach(NOT LIKE LEBRON ) with some couple of friends when one of my friend’s boyfriend ran into some of his homeboys, he introduced us all and we exchanged pleasantries but just introduced his girlfriend of five years to his friends as just ‘meet Seun’.I later questioned my friend who had earlier told me weeks ago about a similar incidences where the boyfriend could not introduce her to his colleagues at work and also to some church members at church after a Sunday service. I told her that she needed to address the issue with her boyfriend but she surely has an excuse to cook up and say, ‘he’s a private kinda guy; he doesn’t like to publicly show stuff.’  YEAH RIGHT

Meet my girlfriend, Seun’ or ‘Meet my fiancé, Seun.’ Not, ‘Meet Seun’ who is Seun???You are the Prize. He should fight over you and want to do things to get and keep you. He should want to make sure you are ok. A man who loves and respects a woman will never want her in doubt when it comes to her knowing of his feelings towards her. He would never want you to feel you are on shaky ground concerning your status with him at least after five years. He will publicly profess and show you to the whole world. He will put up a picture with you in it as his profile pic, tag you in all photos you appear in,(never mind if he lies to another girl you are his cousin  behind your back, don’t bother) and most importantly make sure that his status box shows that he is  in a relationship with you. Yup, that’s what they do when they love you – They says it out LOUD!

Ok, let me ask, “Are you enrolled in midnight gymnastics with him?” In other words has he bent your body in ways you didn’t think possible? Well, there is only one thing worse than a guy sleeping with a woman in secret; and that is, a woman allowing that to happen. Before you allow a man do to you privately what can affect you publicly, he must first of all acknowledge you publicly as the woman he respects and loves. If he can’t do that, you need to tell me why you are still sticking around. How can you allow a man to knock you up when you are just ‘SEUN’ to him? You know you deserve better, so stop the excuses. Instead of making excuses for him, take charge – not of him or the relationship, but of yourself.

TO BE CONTINUED

Image Source: http://www.bvonlove.com/2009/09/04/luv-coach-qanda-overcoming-obstacles/

15 COMMENTS

  1. Chei! You have said it! My favorite part "Before you allow a man do to you privately what can affect you publicly, he must first of all acknowledge you publicly as the woman he respects and loves"

    Love your write ups.

  2. I am a guy and I agree with you. The truth may be bitter but it liberates you. It is not just guys, I know a girl who told the boyfriend she does not want him to put that he is in a relationship with her. My favourite part of the whole thing is “Before you allow a man do to you privately what can affect you publicly, he must first of all acknowledge you publicly as the woman he respects and loves”. Keep up the good work.

  3. I agree with KC that line made me clap out loud as if I were in church…

    "Before you allow a man do to you privately what can affect you publicly, he must first of all acknowledge you publicly as the woman he respects and loves."

    I swear that is 'quote-worthy'

    KEEP 'EM COMING! 🙂

  4. Lovely article…..

    “Are you enrolled in midnight gymnastics with him?” lol!!!!

    Eni to mo lo ye…..

    Yeah, i accept that many women take a lot of crap from guys…..

    Too much double standards…..

    I know a man who's married to this lovely lady…. It started off like this when they were dating, he's a private guy, he doesnt wanna make it public that they are dating and all… She just mumbled a bit and allowed it go on…..

    They got married and waht i can tell u now is that it became worse…. The woman's ego is so low, she doesnt take care of herself, and he doesnt act like they are even married… he rocks stunner, great shirts, nice shoes and leaves the woman looking all washed up… no ear rings, no lipstick, no talking to other mums cos they are a bad influence…

    But you go out at night, come back whenever you like and do things you wouldnt want her to do to you…..

    If u are a woman here and your man is showing such tendencies tell him to stop and if he deoant, leave him, if you b man and u get woman wey no dey acknowledge you for public follow am talk am unless the thing go get major "k" leg later……

    Thank God say man no be God…..

    Great article….

    I dey wait for the rest……

    Cheers and enjoy your friday people….

  5. Lol @ "I recently took my talent to south beach(NOT LIKE LEBRON )" & midnight gymnastics. You get jokes sha. People will treat you certain ways only if you allow them to.

    A proper introduction is a must.

  6. I can't shout! great job. I think women take that stuff because they dont want to be alone. I know that it is painful to break up with someone you love cos you just keep expecting better from them. However, the end point of such relationships is way more painful than if you had put an end to it initially.

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