We’ve all heard this before… Well some of us – Mostly guys though. The fact that having a wedding band on your finger automatically makes you 10 times more attractive. Sometimes, just having a girlfriend is enough sef.
I’m not sure if most girls will agree with me… some might downright tell me to get my head out of the clouds, but I’m convinced I know what I’m talking about. I’ve witnessed, seen and experienced it (not the marriage part tho)
I talked to one of my married friends and after small gist here and there, we eventually got into the subject of married life (as always). I asked him how it feels to be married and all, and one of the first things he said was “You wont believe how much more girls flirt with me just cos of this ring on my finger. As in…which kind wahala be dis?” He further explained that most girls seem to flirt more, be more “friendly,” and just generally make themselves soooo much more available…. Some even make direct moves. Now before everyone jumps up and down, my friend never hinted to cheating or anything like that. He just said that he noticed the stack difference between when he was single and now that he is married.
I remember thinking to myself also… the difference in “play” I get when I’m in a relationship and when I’m not is pretty significant. It’s almost like, when you’re single you get what you get… some babes here and there… dates here and there…some do shakara and others don’t. But when you have a girlfriend or wife, all of a sudden, babes are showing you more green light than you’ve seen before, and some just down right tell you what they want. Like… talks about ballsy. Hopefully no one feels like I’m calling them out, cos I’m not. This all just came from a convo with a friend. Also I’m not saying all women flirt with married men o… I know how my readers can be extra-sensitive, and there are still a good deal of women/girls that respect themselves and the sanctity of marriage. But more than a few do actually seem to get off on knowing someone is attached or unavailable.
My cousin (a married woman) explained to me that it’s all about wanting what you can’t have. In her words, “if a baby sees a toy with another baby, he automatically wants that toy, and if he gets it, and the other baby gets another toy, he wants that one too. If no one wants the toy then he doesn’t want it either. No woman wants a man that no one wants, and some want the man that everyone wants, or someone else has.” She also explained that the most clueless men are the most attractive. So does this also apply to men also? Cos I don’t see this behavior from men… then again I might be blind to it. Ladies, help me out here.
Now the question here is, are all men tripping about this notion of being more attractive when you’re hooked up? Is it true? Why is it so? What is the attractive factor to married men or men in relationship… I really want to hear from babes on this one. Now I just want to remind everyone that this is totally anonymous so no need to form or sugarcoat what you have to say. Say it as it is.