Ahhh… You should get with her. She’s from a good home.


Ok. No offense to anyone that “is from a good home,” but I have to enter this phrase very well. I’m talking to my older cousin the other day and in one of her numerous efforts to hook me up with one babe or another, she urges me to take a chance on some girl by saying, “She’s a very good girl… she comes from a very good home.” Ok, now… no wahala. Let’s see how it goes. So I do my own research on the babe (as anyone should do), and let’s just say I got a not-so-good review on the babe. From being a lil psycho from what a good number of people I know said, I also found out she was into some not so legit runz in jand, and at one time was a pretty well known aristo babe in Uniben. Chei!!! Na wa oo… So this one nah person from good home. Not being too judgmental, but that’s not exactly what my cousin probably had in mind when she said the babe is from a good home.

But then I started thinking… I’m from a “good home” too, and I’ve done some stuff that I don’t think my parents will be particularly proud of, so what’s with the “good home” stuff. I’m not saying that your family background is not important, but it does not guarantee the kind of person you are as an individual. I know people from messed up families that are good people, and vice versa. Example?… Check our dear friend Farouk Abdul-Mutallab… I’m sure most will say he’s from a “good family.” Heck even the Bin Laden family is apparently a “good family.”

It seems like a lot of times that’s the only thing our parents, uncles and aunties seem to be concerned about or it’s on top of the list. I’m sure you can meet a drug dealer and 19 boy or ashawo tomorrow that is from a “good home.” I mean… a lot of parents don’t know what their kids do outside the house anyways. Of course we all come home and join bible study, be respectful in the house, act well and such, but the moment we enter plane to school or wherever we live, we’re back to doing the things we don’t want our parents to know we’re doing… myself included.

Now before some people descend on me, I’d like to say a person’s family background is important, and should not be looked over, but just because “she’s from a good home” doesn’t mean she’s a good person, and I also understand that some folks are very open with their parents about any and everything they do, so it could be that some parents know what their kids are doing, but still, I’ll put my majority on most parents don’t know some stuff we as their children have done or are doing, and so what is displayed at home is far from what the person might actually be like when outside the home.

Anyways.., summary of my gist here is I don’t buy that “she’s from a good home” stuff. It’s cool… but that doesn’t mean that I’ll start buying palmwine and looking for route to her village because she’s from a good home. Wetin be good home sef? Me too sef be from good home but I know say some tings wey i dey do no go fly too well with Male & Pale


  1. Good home or bad home it's always good to do ur own personal investigation on the individual, the kind of home you come from is not a guaranty on how an individual turns out.

  2. I agree with Arinze, and this may sound cynical, but I also think that a lot of Nigerians tend to define "good family" as having money or having connections. I think it is fine to consider family background to a certain degree, but what's more important is what aspects of the family background are important to you.

  3. I totally agree with you….coming from a good home is good and relatively important but I must say it is kinda overrated! will you be getting married to "good home" or the individual in question…lol….this is another way we humans box people into mental compartments we've created!

  4. I totally agree with this entry. It's crucial to do your own research, regardless of what those older than you say about people they are likely judging on their parents' merit and not their own!