There is a very interesting & disturbing phenomenon going on in yankee these days that has seemed to work its way from Nigeria. The idea that it’s common practice for a guy that wants to date a girl to take her and her friends out on the first date, or maybe not even the first date, but when they all go out to clubs, he’ll pay their way at the door – the girl he’s toasting and all 4 of her friends that is. I mean, why? The guy is only interested in one girl, so wetin concern am with the other babes. It’s not a problem if he offers, which sometimes happens, but when it becomes a case where the girl and her friends get to the club, or finish eating at a restaurant and everyone starts acting like they are on their cell phone, or looking up to the ceiling and pretending like they don’t see the bill or don’t see the door person collecting money, then we have a problem. This needs to stop asap. Sometimes it’s more annoying, because you know some of these girls have money, some come from well to do homes – their parents are high-rollers in naija and yours are civil servants-, but for some strange reason they just like the awoof, and wont think twice about chopping free food.
In some cases, the guy is not even interested in any of the girls. They are all just friends. Maybe they went to school with each other, or go to the same church, or something, but for some reason these babes always feel like it’s their right to be paid for. Let’s see… your dad is balling back home, and my dad isn’t. I work 9-5 (which is nothing so great to brag about), and drive a regular car, and you’re still getting money from parents, and riding in a 2009 whip. How is it fair for me to pay for you and your 6 friends to get into the club at $20 a head. What effizy am I trying to prove? Maybe if I was into 19 business and I just hammered then it wouldn’t be a big deal to pull effizy like that, but unfortunately (or fortunately) I’m not. To be fair this doesn’t apply to a lot of african babes, but a significant number do fall into this category.
Do I think I should pay for a girl I ask out on a date? Yes. Will I treat my friends to dinner or drinks or whatever every once in a while? Yes, but please if I say “Let’s all go to velvet room 2nite,” that doesn’t mean I’m paying for you and your 4 homegirls to enter velvet room, or if I say “let’s all go to dinner”, it doesn’t mean when the check comes you should pretend like it’s not there or start scratching your head and turning in a different direction. Stop this madness! This is yankee – Every man/woman for his/herself unless stated otherwise.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? Yes?, No? Maybe?…. I want to hear what you think.